Posted on April 12th, 2010
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近日,广州市妇联在首届广州地区女大学生论坛上发布了《广州女大学生价值观调查红皮书》显示,59.2%的女大学生愿意嫁给“富二代”,理由是可以少奋斗很多年。
“名校毕业生照样沦为蜗居族……”“只要有房子,甘当小三……”一部电视剧《蜗居》引起了众多关于女性价值观的探讨。“做得好,不如嫁得好”、“傍大款是 靠本身赚钱”……这些过去都会被人不耻甚至唾骂的观点正悄然在女大学生中兴起。
为何近六成女大学生愿嫁“富二代”?相信也有近六成甚至更多的男大学生愿娶“富二代”。
现在的很多女大学生是现实的,但也充满智慧。她们愿嫁“富二代”,并非都是盲目的、完全不讲爱情找有钱人,她们的初衷也许是想找能心心相印、志同道合的 “富二代”。很多人认为一些“富二代”过于任性、放纵、缺乏责任感,尤其是近几年来,“炫富”、“飙车案”、“调戏少女”等新闻的出现,使得有财无德、恃财傲物似乎成 了“富二代”共有的特性。但现实中不排除有很多“富二代”受到良好的教育,除了巨额财富外,并不缺乏才情和智慧。
然而,探究这一婚恋观的成因,就会发现贫富差距正在拉大到摧毁信念的程度。巨大的贫富差距使人们认识到,即使奋斗一辈子, 全部身家也赶不上富豪们的一个零头。而当下底层社会境况是:房子买不起,有病看不起,生孩子养不起、供不起。在迷失了人生路标之后,女大学生们只能无奈地 选择嫁给富人,以获得社会资源的优先分配权。这种被动选择,是社会现实摧毁了奋斗信念的结果。
女大学生作为知识女性中最年轻、最富有朝气的一 部分,其知识层次、素质能力是令人瞩目的,这一群体应该并且能够在社会上找到自己的合理定位。然而,在就业压力沉重、社会保障安全系数低的考量下,只能做 出“我拿青春赌明天”的无奈选择。这种错位的价值观,不仅会带来资源浪费,更会在社会上树立一个不良的标杆,使创造精神被摒弃,创新活力被扼杀,只有畸形 的“捷径”被崇拜。
在贫富差距不断拉大,社会公平屡遭诟病的语境下,若不能很好的关怀底层青年的心灵,新的社会危机随时可能出现。
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Posted on April 10th, 2007
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By Craig Berman
MSNBC contributor
Updated: 11:25 a.m. ET April 9, 2007
To hear critics talk, Sanjaya Malakar’s ascendancy to the final eight on “American Idol
? is a travesty, threatening the success of the show’s brand name and the credibility of the musical competition. That couldn’t be further from the truth.
Sanjaya is not the best singer in the history of the competition. He’s not even the best of this season’s finalists. But he’s not a disaster either. In fact, those who are looking to tear him down or use him as an example of the show’s weakness need to keep a few things in mind before ranting away.
Sanjaya’s not the one who put himself into the semifinals
Every time the judges rip on Sanjaya, or insinuate that he shouldn’t be on the show, keep in mind that it wasn’t the show’s viewers who made him a candidate in the first place. That honor belongs to none other than the three judges; Randy Jackson, Paula Abdul, and Simon Cowell.
Those are the three who pick the show’s 24 semifinalists, and the viewers have no say in the process until that stage of the game. Moreover, the producers, editors and judges set Malakar up in a great position to succeed by giving him a ton of airtime on the audition episodes, then making him the only teenager among the 12 male finalists. In a crowded semifinal field, he stood out for his youth, giving him an early voting bloc at a time when some rivals were struggling to get their names out there.
So if the viewers are being dumb and short-sighted by continuing to vote for Sanjaya, what does that make the people who put his candidacy forward in the first place?
His success is not the result of an Internet conspiracy
Don’t overestimate the effects of the Howard Stern show, much less Web sites like votefortheworst.com . Their effect on the results is likely negligible, because the producers make it difficult for that sort of effort to succeed.
The phone numbers for each contestant change every week. That means that someone who hates the show enough to want to see it fail has to watch it anyway on Tuesday nights in order to get the phone number to call. They then have to wait until 9 p.m. in their time zone to call in, and probably will have to keep trying for at least several minutes in order to get through. How many people who don’t even like the show are putting in that kind of effort each week?
Also keep in mind that the naysayer Web sites simply pick a new candidate once the old one is voted off. Sanjaya wasn’t the first to be targeted by the Web sites this season; that was Antonella Barba. And if Web sites can’t keep a contestant who has risqué pictures (some apparently real, some not) added to the Internet by the day, what are the odds that they can lead someone like Malakar to glory?
There’s always a worst-case option to vote for; when Sanjaya goes it will simply be Phil Stacey, or Haley Scarnato, or one of the other finalists. So the explanation for Sanjaya’s success isn’t the Internet. It’s more likely that:
In popularity contests, nice guys finish first
Love his singing or hate it, there’s no way Sanjaya comes across as anything but likeable. He’s a 17-year-old kid in an adult competition, hearing every week that he isn’t good enough to be there. How many teenagers could handle that strain without attacking the judges with a music stand?
Yet Malakar doesn’t react as though he’s bothered by the criticism. He knows the judges don’t like him, but he reacts with a smile and an occasional half-hearted barb to their comments. He has nothing but good cheer for everyone each week, and indeed tends to come across as one of the calmer, more self-assured competitors.
In addition, Sanjaya’s strategy has been more than a little brilliant. The Mohawk haircut he sported a couple of weeks ago got him a ton of extra attention, to the point where Ryan Seacrest sported a faux-hawk while hosting the next day’s show. Sure, he looked ridiculous. But he got people interested in him, to the point where some watch the show now to see what Sanjaya will do next. That’s not something many of his rivals can say.
Even when he dresses normally, he looks and acts like a nice kid that the big mean adults are picking on, and that’s always going to win some sympathy votes. That’s why the judges have gone easier on him in recent weeks, knowing that their vitriol is counterproductive. Alas, for the judges, there’s one more problem.
Sanjaya’s not a bad singer
Sanjaya Malakar has a melodious voice that legitimately has captured a fan base. It might not be everyone’s cup of tea, and it’s not the best in the field, but nor does he sound like a karaoke king who got lost on his way to the bar and wound up onstage.